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36 questions to fall in love

Mutual vulnerability fosters closeness. Allowing yourself to be open and honest with another person can be hard. Thankfully these 36 questions and convo starters are designed to make getting to know someone really really well a lot easier. So what do you need to know about someone to love them?

Start with these 36 things:

SET I

Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?
Would you like to be famous? In what way?
Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?
What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?
When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?
If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?
Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?
Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.
For what in your life do you feel most grateful?
If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?
Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.
If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?

SET II

If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?
Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?
What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?
What do you value most in a friendship?
What is your most treasured memory?
What is your most terrible memory?
If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?
What does friendship mean to you?
What roles do love and affection play in your life?
Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.
How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?
How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?

SET III

Make three true “we” statements each. For instance, “We are both in this room feeling …”
Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share …”
If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.
Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met.
Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.
When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?
Tell your partner something that you like about them already.
What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?
If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?
Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?
Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?
Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how he or she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.

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with a few of these questions your character might be inclined to ask someone else.

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with your answers to their burning inquiries and see were it leads. You can always tap another question because reciprocation is nice.

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8. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.
11. Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.
15. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?
17. What is your most treasured memory?
26. Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share …”

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One: Incredible natural colour. Two: A penchant for bold looks and three: I'm not sure what else. You'll have to tell me where you stand on something— how do you take your coffee?

7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?
10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?
29. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.

10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?
15. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?
27. If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.
31. Tell your partner something that you like about them already.

12. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?
19. If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?
30. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?

Telepathy would be handy, I imagine. Then again, there's no sport in being persuasive if you can just flip some kind of brain switch.

I wonder if telepathy is more a curse than a blessing. All our relationships have to begin with some construct of deception, and it'd destroy that pretty easily.

I know a few who I can only hope to become cursed by it...

A construct of deception you say? That's an interesting point of view. Especially from someone your age. What amount of deception would you say you're comfortable with? Maybe even, expecting.

They must have done awful things to deserve such a curse.

I've been taught to overestimate when it comes down to it. And you? What amount of deception you tend to expect from others?

Some more than others. Nosy bunch, you know? And so insufferably prone to moral superiority.

Hm. That's wise. I suppose that is a deception, isn't it? I've never thought of it quite like that, but in that case... I'm going to come off like quite a pessimist answering that. I'd say I take most people for liars and the one's who think they aren't are just lying to themselves.

Ah. Understandable.

I don't think it's pessimistic at all. If anything, it feels like the most realistic perception to have when it comes to us. There's a reason why we give so much weight to things like first impressions and why so much of our self-image is based on how we can appear to others. Wouldn't you agree?

Absolutely. If life has taught me anything, it's that appearances do matter.

Are you older than you look, if you don't mind my asking? You seem... unusually astute for a woman of your age. Or, at least, what I might guess your age to be.

[ she can't help her smile at that. ]

I can't take credit. It's... because I've had an amazing mentor in the form of my grandmother all of my life. Without her, I wouldn't be as impressive. Although, out of curiosity, how old do I look?

I'm certain she's a force to be reckoned with.

I swear I get worse at this the older I get. I suppose I might have put you about twenty. Give or take a couple of years, no?

She truly is.

You're better at it than I am! Twenty, give or take a few years, is pretty accurate. Meanwhile, my answer for you would be... ageless. And I don't mean that as a lie or flattery.

See. I knew you were clever.
Ageless might be... more true than either of us know. I've been around a long time. More than a hundred years now. No signs of stopping either. So I suppose I'm just along for the ride.

That's... incredible.

Did you ever struggle with that? Have your thoughts on your immortality ever changed?

5. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?
11. Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.
17. What is your most treasured memory?
18. What is your most terrible memory?

7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?
26. Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share …”
32. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?

I've little doubt that I'll end up murdered, one day. I do little to avoid making enemies.

That makes two of us.

Any bets about who's going to land the shot?

Not a clue. I cast a very wide net.

A man who lives dangerously, hm? What is it you do?

With so many people potentially out to kill me, you really can't guess?

I'm a lawyer.

No, but my own line of work tends to skew my—— oh. Well. Yes, I can see how that would prove hazardous to one's health.

I can be very unlikeable. It's a marketable skill.

What is it that you do, anyway? Other than... [ He just kind of. Gestures. ] Cosplay?

Oh, I believe you. There's power in repelling people.

[She raises an eyebrow at that.] I don't play at anything, dear.
I've been a lot of things in my life. A solider. A politician. A foreign agent. A mistress. A few things I won't cop to as well. At least not without establishing attorney client privilege first.

[what do you do when you end up in a weirdly intimate situation with a really famous, really hot mutant with a long, complicated history with pretty much your entire meta-family? Uh, you go along with it and hope for the best.]

I mean I'm really hoping you don't kill me now, but I'm guessing I'll have a heart attack when my body stops being able to keep up with itself. That or I'll be willed out of existence by some ubermagic, you know, the ushe.

[She gives him a coy smile.]

Try not to give me a reason, dear.
[Wink.]

Is that typical of speedsters? Heart failure?

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No idea, but someone suggested it once and it kinda makes sense. If something's gonna give eventually, my hearts doing a hell of a lot of work all the time.

So can I ask you a question now or is this a one way thing?

I do wonder if the same theory wouldn't apply to other mutations though.

Ask away.
Unless this is another question about being naked all the time. God I tire of those.

Yeah, I'm not trying to keep you from murdering me, remember? I'm not stupid.

Uh...If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?

Smarter than you look, hm?

Not philosophically speaking, no. There are some... loose ends I might look to tie up. But if I was going to change who I am as a person. Well, I think that would have had to happen by now.

8. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.
10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?
17. What is your most treasured memory?
18. What is your most terrible memory?
23. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?

4. What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?

14. Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?

27. If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.

9. For what in your life do you feel most grateful?
14. Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?
20. What does friendship mean to you?

[ leaving it open to being asked of him first, because he's not a deep question asker. ]

5. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?
8. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.
11. Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.
16. What do you value most in a friendship?
25. Make three true “we” statements each. For instance, “We are both in this room feeling …”
27. If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.

4. What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?
9.For what in your life do you feel most grateful?
14. Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?
17. What is your most treasured memory?

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