aita?

[insertusername]

am i the asshole?

Life isn’t always black and white. Sometimes it’s hard to tell who’s really at fault, and no one wants to believe they’re the bad guy. Sometimes you need an outside opinion. Or several.

Tell your side of the story and crowdsource an honest answer to the age old question; Am I The Asshole?

Top Level

with your character explaining a situation where they might have been the asshole.

Comment

with your hot takes. Anon or IC.

Comments

[fightugly]

You're responsible for your own behaviour. I know he would never treat me like this, nor would he support it.

[(Anonymous)]

Treat you like this? What, tell you something that you don't wanna hear?

Wow, you're really something. You literally asked.

You're right, though. He wouldn't support it cause you've made him believe that he doesn't deserve it. That he doesn't deserve his own kind of support.

[fightugly]

You're not even bothering to hide your disdain for me.

[(Anonymous)]

The kind of validations a person needs to hear says a lot about them.

[fightugly]

You're right, I don't want to hear that I'm the asshole. But it was my choice to ask and I've accepted that you think I am.

[(Anonymous)]

Well. At least you're somewhat reasonable. That's something.

[(Anonymous)]

Just know that he has other people looking out for him now too.

[fightugly]

Good. I'm glad he does.

[(Anonymous)]

Also, I'm not sorry for standing up for him. But my bad if I was a little too harsh.

[fightugly]

I didn't think you were. Sorry, that is. You were harsh. I'm not used to people not liking me.

[(Anonymous)]

Yeah, I can tell. Might be something to think about.

[fightugly]

You might want to think about being an asshole to people you don't even know, regardless if they're asking the same question of themselves.

[(Anonymous)]

I don't lay awake at night wondering if I'm being an asshole about something I was definitely being an asshole about.

[fightugly]

So you're content being the asshole and sleep well?

[(Anonymous)]

I'm content sticking up for people I give a shit about when the person who treated them like crap is trying to catch sympathy for the asshole thing they did.

[fightugly]

Would you be happier if Eddie and I patched things up?

[(Anonymous)]

That's not what this is about.

[fightugly]

Well, if you're sticking up for him and he doesn't have a problem with me anymore, what have you got left to be an asshole about it?

[(Anonymous)]

Of course he doesn't have a problem with you. He cares about you.
I just don't think it's right that you're trying to get sympathy for this shit.

And I know he apologized to you over this a ton of times already, but I doubt you've apologized for everything you did.

It would be nice for him to know that he didn't fuck everything up.

[fightugly]

Except in that moment he did. That moment is over now and I've forgiven him. Yes, he knows this.

[(Anonymous)]

What he should know is that he did the right thing.

But you're right. It's over.
And it's your loss cause he's a really fucking great guy.

[fightugly]

I know he is. I've known that for a long time.

[(Anonymous)]

Would you ever take him back?

[fightugly]

I don't know.

[(Anonymous)]

You don't know? That mean your new guy's just a rebound?